UNREQUITED LOVE

Courtesy of : Maricar C.
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To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain.

Some people say that unrequited love is not true love. On the contrary, to love without expecting recognition or return is the highest form of love. Don’t you agree?

It can be hurtful and painful to love somebody whom you know can’t, don’t or won’t love you back.Yes, we all say it’s part of life and it happens.If only there is something we can do to change the other person’s feelings towards us; to make them love us back, we would move heaven and earth to do so… But there is no gravitational pull strong enough to do this.

Personally, I hate feeling and falling for someone who doesn’t even appreciate how I feel. It makes me so vulnerable. One day she’s sweet, the other she’s not. And then she’s back to her sweet self again…and here I find myself hoping she may be “the one”. But she then shatters that hope when I see her happy with someone else. --- Ugh! I hate this! It’s as if she exists to mess me up.

But as you see my friends, I am still here standing strong amidst all the bitterness that this thing they call “unrequited love” left me with. I can’t say I’ve moved on but I’m moving on. I am moving on because I understand this might not be love at all but illusions that I created for myself for someone whom I feel for very deeply. But to get to where I am was tough. Good thing I have my friends, family, and the Lord’s guidance to help me deal with the situation. In the process, I have learned a lot. And let me share them with you:

First, take the time to review your emotions

Evaluate the emotions you may have towards your “loved one.” Is it true love or is it just superficial – simply based on her or his good looks, sex appeal or stability? If what you may be feeling is not based on the latter then you may be truly in love with this person, and you may just be about ready and willing to stand up and fight for your love

Second, check whether your loved one shares reciprocal feelings towards you

Take the time to check how the other side is feeling. If you suspect that the other person shares similar feelings towards you, then this may be an encouraging sign for you to open up and confess your true feelings to this individual. However, if this is not the case, don’t consider the battle to be over. Take your time and utilize your resources and energy fully in order to demonstrate to this person that you really care for him or her and that you will go far to make him or her know that.

Don't give up

Don’t give up on the first rejection. Give it time and don’t take no for an answer. Work at it and it will come if it is meant to be. However, if you do not see any progress in this regard over time, then you might as well give up on it and search for a new partner. It is important to bear in mind that we cannot make somebody love us. It is that person’s free will. We can show that we care and how much desire to be with him or her, but we cannot force love or a relationship. . Persistence and perseverance may very well win her or his love, but obsession and stalking never does. It sends you to jail.

Take care of yourself if your love is not returned

If that other side is determined over time that he or she does not want you, don’t waste your time. Distance yourself from this person and spend your energy looking for somebody new. You never know when and where you may find this new person, but you will certainly find him or her sooner if you are not stuck in an unfortunate love situation that is making you unhappy and draining off your energy.

We are valuable human beings, there is no reason on Earth why we should be waiting around for this one person to notice us and value us in the way we want to be acknowledged. The best possible advice is to take care of ourselves. Yes, love hurts! But it’s the only way we could feel and appreciate happiness all the more.

Love though your heart is aching. For in the end, what matters most is that we love at all.